It starts with you.
Your brain has a mind. It dreams, it stores, it processes and works really hard and helping you navigate life. Your body also has a mind. I call it, mindbody. It often gives a signal in your chest, your throat or stomach, indicating something isn’t quite right. It’s eager to have a voice and to collaborate. It yearns for some form of recognition for all the difficult moments it internalized so you could keep on going.
Most of us have not yet cultivated a very connected and fluid relationship between mind and body. Our capacity to grow and evolve, and break through barriers to the level of self-actualization can only happen when there is an empowered relationship with these parts of us.
I’d like to invite you to take an inventory. When I talk about your relationship with yourself, it’s looking at the quality of how you talk to yourself, how you listen to the self in your body, how you respond to your feelings.
Do you cut off from them?
Do you turn away from them?
Here is a really good thing to think about. If this were you and another person, the self in your mind and the self in your body, what would that relationship look like? Empowered, disempowered?
Is there trust? Is there connection? Is there presence?
What’s the flow of energy? Is there a partnership?
One of the core mechanisms that has been keeping these old patterns in place are all of the ways that you have been listening to yourself and talking to yourself that reinforce and have been keeping alive this old story in the experience of the self in your body.
Part of how we’re going to break through and break free and grow ourselves to be able to show up in ways that are consistent with our inner knowing, with our power, with our wisdom, has to do with stepping into a way of being in relationship with ourselves, our feelings and our experience that cultivates growth, connection, presence, and awareness. This is no small task.
One of the biggest things that has been blocking that up until now is that we don’t know how to be with our experience without fixing, without blocking, without blaming, without shaming. We’ve been conditioned to create success using these old structures, which separate us further from ourselves and from others.
Most of us turn away from our feelings that are difficult because we don’t know what to do with them. We fear the old meanings and old stories are true. They’ve been overwhelming us. When we can turn toward them, witness them, and connect with them from a stronger sense of self and begin turning all of our loving kindness, wisdom, and power that we’ve been giving to other people towards ourselves, we have the power to self-evolve, to grow, to expand, and to be able to show up and create powerfully in the area of our intention. This energy then has the frequency to awaken other family members and expand and entice their thinking. This then begins the mending of any fractures in the family system.
By Pam Blanchard