We’ve all heard or read, “We need to love ourselves first before we can love another”. But does anyone truly know what to love yourself means? For years I didn’t get the importance of that message. Even when I read the benefits of loving one’s self, I couldn’t figure out how to get there… or what that felt like. The process itself, felt uncomfortable and self-serving. “It’s not all about you Pam!”(occupied my mind).
To be selfish, had a history of not being in my best interest. It was loomed with negativity and any signs of it caused shame and stopped me from ever wanting to set up camp in that way-of-being.
Fast forward now, here in my 50’s, becoming selfish is essential to my mental, physical and spiritual well-being. Selfish meaning, my mask needs to be secure first before I can be a guide to another’s well-being.
The work was to create an authentic connection to the truest part of me. Without this I would have continued to look to other’s to find myself, which often meant doing things to keep the peace or to stay safe.
Friends, I did not do this work alone and continue to meet weekly with my own mentor to expand every aspect of who I am and who I want to be.
Today I lead with my heart.
To lead from a nourished heart means our internal-tank is filled with our love, our tenderness and our validations (WE KNOW WE MATTER). To take our power back and to be able to hold our own in the midst of a world, appearing, to be coming undone, is more essential now to our overall well-being, than ever before.
So now, when someone says, “It’s not all about you Pam,” I say, with confidence, “indeed, it is❣️”.