Life’s too short for us not to get along…and let’s face it, status quo can be soul-sucking, isolating and lonely.  We can fantasize about escaping to a deserted island for a breather…but what have we accomplished if while taking that breather, we neglect doing our own inner-work.  That’s where hope lies in each and every one us.  We each play a role and we each have the ability to not only transform our own life but the lives of those around us…just by becoming self-aware, accountable and open to evolving.

Four ideas to get you and your relationship back on track, creating connection… and changing the story you’re telling.

  1. Your Truth : Tell your version of the story, “I feel like we’ve lost touch and it scares me.  I want to talk to you but I fear starting a fight and I don’t want to fight anymore.”
  2. Your Observations:  “I’ve noticed when you get quiet it makes me feel anxious”
  3. Your Vision:   “I want to work on creating a home that I feel safe enough to be myself in at all times.  I don’t want to fight anymore, it just causes more heartache and we deserve a good life.  I’d really like to try being more comfortable sharing my thoughts and learning to ask for what I want.” 
  4. Your Back:  “I’m wondering if I can count on you to support this transition?”